As Mother’s Day approaches, I have been reflecting upon what happened last year.
I was newly pregnant, and my dear friend had just had a miscarriage. Though I had experienced my own miscarriage before going on to have my first two children, I could not fully understand my friend’s grief as she navigated the stormy waters of infertility.
What happened that day created a distance between us, and surely deepened the wounds in her own heart; however, I am thankful that we have come through this stronger and even closer to one another.
With my friend’s blessing, I have shared our story on Austin Mom’s Blog today. She hopes the message will reach other moms struggling and hurting this Mother’s Day, and inspire the friends of those grieving to show up and be present for their pain.
“Happy Mother’s Day.” The text arrived during a joyful day of celebrating with my husband and two young boys. As soon as I saw it, sickness swelled in my stomach, and it wasn’t just the 10-week, new pregnancy making me feel ill. It was heartbreak for the friend on the other end of the message. The friend who had miscarried just a few months before.
I stood frozen, phone in my hand, wondering how to best respond. Typing and deleting, typing and deleting, a short “Thank you <3” was finally sent. I wanted to say so much more, but didn’t, for fear of wounding her already grieving heart. My inability to find the right words haunted me for days, but surely did not compare to how much my silence hurt her.”
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